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Romantic Humiliation

You Can Keep Good Man Down

At least sometimes.

While we will be getting to Romantic Humiliation presently, let’s start here: If you’re not familiar with Erotic Humiliation as a subdivision of Female Domination, well you just might be missing something. Remember the Golden Rule of Kink: He who fucks with glass condoms shouldn’t throw stones. (Don’t knock it if you haven’t tried it. Or even if you have.)

Before you get yourself worked into some superior kink-tizzy, let me tell you something: I did not come to Erotic Humiliation easily nor with any willingness to even learn about it. Even lil’ me has been rejected by a lover or two and I just couldn’t get my head or heart around inflicting (what I perceived as) emotional pain upon another human being. This was not domination to my then way of thinking–this was some warped version of meritless and pointless abuse; a bizarre, convoluted circumstance of reverse misogyny.

But a most interesting thing began happening with my gentlemen submissives. Their fantasies were evolving. For while they still craved and appreciated my tried and true verbal counsel to take my strap-on up their asses, worship my cunt, suck large cocks, wear my panties, submit to cuckolding, and so much more, they now wanted me to escalate the rush with name calling, sneering, spitting and even public embarrassment. They wanted to HEAR their domination and many times even yearned for others to witness it.

And guess what? Once I tried it, I was hooked. I fell in love with the entire game of it. After all I am and always have been since I was knee high to a grasshopper, first and foremost, a woman of words. So I jumped right into the filthy world of FemDom Mud Slinging, where the Goddess, interestingly enough, always stays spotless. Since then, I’ve been–with that specialized group of callers–dishing out verbal venom in spades and even clubs, hearts and diamonds.

In fact, I’ve been so enthusiastic and defensive in regard to these particular fantasies that I was tapped by Gracie Passette to write about them (Erotic Humiliation is not an Oxymoron) for Sex Kitten Presents the BDSM Issue.

So there I was, business as usual, dragging those (small … always small) dicks through the mud when a new species of humiliation junkies began emerging from the primordial swill. Evolution, once again, dontcha know?

First a smattering: one here or there, then two, then three, four…Then more: Showing up on the doorstep of my virtual dungeon with their submissive tails between their legs, BUT with their hearts on their sleeves, stars in their eyes and bearing chocolates, flower bouquets, diamond rings and even wedding bands. They wanted to be loved and adored and treasured and cherished by–and many times even married to–the very same girl who was going to kick their psychological asses.

And who better for the task? Giggle.

Make no mistake about it: Erotic Humiliation and Romantic Humiliation are not one and the same. Erotic humiliation is edgier, crueler and inflicted in a cold, even haughty, manner. The Mistress or Princess or Goddess usually exhibits very little emotional connection to her victim. If she does reveal any affection, it is more along the lines of what someone would show toward a favorite pet. This occurs more often with the Princess type of Erotic Humiliation fantasies, which is perfectly understandable if you consider the obvious dynamics involved when an oft-times older man is obeisant to a young and usually immature but charmingly bratty Princess.

With Romantic Humiliation there is commonly a deep love and respect shared by the Dominant and Submissive. The wife or girlfriend values and even cherishes her loved one’s intelligence, sense of humor, devotion and other redeeming, even desired, qualities. Unfortunately, despite their emotional commitment to each other, the man just cannot deliver the goods when it comes to the sexual part of their relationship.

And being his best buddy and soul mate, this woman has no choice but to continually, yet very gently and lovingly, remind him of his inadequacy. Otherwise he might forget or pretend differently, which could cause him all sorts of problems. And, after all, honesty is the best policy–particularly between two people who love each other. Right?


Some examples? Sure, why not?

  • Darling Frank. Please Honey. Don’t try to rub that flaccid thing on me. You know you can’t sustain an erection for any length of time and you’ll just end up frustrated. And I hate seeing you like that.. Why don’t you put it away for now?
  • Now what are you doing? Looking at pornography again? Baby, what do you plan on doing with that little hard-on? There is no possible way you can satisfy me or any woman with your little wee wee. We’ve discussed it time an again, Aaron. Why look at those huge cocks servicing all those beautiful girls? It will just upset you. Now come over to the chair and I’ll let you rub it on my foot for a little bit. That will make you feel better.
  • Carl, darling. Come sit by me; I have something to talk to you about. This isn’t going to be easy, Angel, and I want you to know that I say it because I love you with all of my heart. Remember when the pool boy was here the other day? And he had on those tight spandex shorts? You were watching him through the window and all of a sudden you got an erection. And I have to say, my love, that it was stiffer than any erection you’ve ever had when you were fucking me. You do know that, don’t you? You wanted to suck his cock, didn’t you?
  • Oh, Joseph, do you need to ejaculate again? How can those little peanuts of yours fill up so fast? I guess because they’re so tiny. When I think about Tyson and how full and hard those big black balls get right before he pumps his load into me… Well, there simply is no comparison. Go get your cum cup and I’ll jerk you off into it. Okay? Would you like that, sweetie? Then we can go out to dinner and a movie.
  • Honey, you can hump me through my panties, but hurry up. You know that Sarah and I are going shopping for shoes. It’s so cute when you squirt your little goo goo on them. While you are doing that, I am going to call Sarah. You just go right ahead. Hello, Sarah? Of course you can come over now. Robert was just, well, you know! I’ll hurry him up. It never takes him long anyway. Just a little squirt and he’s done.

So, do you kinda-sorta get the picture?

If you’re an intrigued female just dying to give this a whirl, I would advise that you don’t try this at home, unless your lover/husband/boyfriend has been forewarned–because while it can be extremely hot, all parties need to know the game rules. And guess what? I do believe there is a very real chance that said loved one might actually surprise you with his enthusiasm.

And if you’re a guy reading this who’s suddenly found the room sweltering and you had to loosen your collar? Silly Wabbit, what are you waiting for? Give me a call, why dontcha?

xo, Angela

17 Responses to “Romantic Humiliation”

  1. Metro Sissy Says:

    I’m speechless. Utterly speechless. That’s a good thing.

    How did you get to be so wise?

  2. Lyndee Says:

    Very nice “piece”, you “willy wabbit!!”

    Hope you are well, chica! xoxo

  3. Richard Says:

    I love erotic humiliation but actually draw a total blank with romantic humiliation. I don’t mean I find it repulsive. Just no imaginative empathy for the experience.

    But there’s never any doubt that you know how to create beautiful magic for the men who do enjoy it.

  4. curious george Says:

    eloquent and right on. thank you.

  5. Angela Says:

    George, is that you? Are you who I think you are?

    And Richard…I do so love when you stop by.

    xo, Angela

  6. Kylie Says:

    Perfect. Angela, once again (as always) you are absolutely perfect. In every way. I LOVED this entry!! Hilarious!! And I don’t think, before now anyway, that I ever drew a line between erotic humiliation and romantic humiliation. Hmmm… food for thought.

    xoxo, K

  7. Angela Says:

    Hello fellow PSO’s, Lyndee and Kylee. So good to see you both.

  8. hot java Says:

    Oh Angela, one of the reasons you are the Mistress of the Millenium is your keen understanding of nuance. Brilliant and very entertaining piece.

  9. submale2uze Says:

    Before I read this, I would have said that hands down I was with Richard. I’ve been into heavy ball-busting humiliation for a long time now.

    (And at which–no surprise here–you happen to excel.)

    I’d never would have thought of, even imagined such a thing as “romantic” humiliation. Now you have me wondering…

  10. Mistress160 Says:

    Always so good to read anything linked to erotic humiliation (in its various forms lol), there being so few publications around … as Richard says, you create a magical world for those interested in its romantic form!


  11. litmajor Says:

    So is it romantic humiliation when you tell me “Look, you are in one state and I’m in another, and I’m never going to tell you where I really live, so just let me talk to you on the phone for a while and see what that can do for you?” Sure feels that way – and I love it. Sure would appreciate the address, though!

  12. Angela Says:

    Mr. Major…shame on you!

  13. goodguygonebad Says:

    Hot, hot, hot! I didn’t know about this desire, but boy, have I come to appreciate it. Or is that, I appreciate to come to it? Great stuff!

  14. Lyndee Says:

    Sorry…but, that was one of the greatest posts I have seen in ages…litmajor!! That is toooooo funny…I guess it would be a form of romantic humiliation, eh?

    Still laughing as I leave this awesome site…..Toodles!!

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